Interesting, if a male he likely will be more active and start searching in vain for a mate. Maybe you should find him some company, it seems the majority (if not all) of assassin bugs are communal.
Sounds great, indeed the forum posts I've seen about them always seem to say the assassins have to be mishandled/provoked/or in a "bad mood" to even consider biting.
From what little I know that sounds right. They tend to "suck" out the prey insides and takes awhile to do it. I've also read many will drag off their prey somewhere where they can do so safely (a makeshift burrow/hide).
I'm honestly surprised though no assassin bug keepers have responded to your thread as of yet. I guess they are all off being busy with their bugs.
I've thought of getting into keeping assassins myself at one point, but I have plenty of pets anymore without a new one (or new species even).