Im thinking about leaving the mantis commnity

[Jessie]

This has not been fun. Juat stressful. I cant make my own choices without getting attacked. And instead of saying things to my face. They have to twlk behind my back like a high school kid.

I have anxiety and depression i dont need this. I wouldnt leave mantis. I just would do it all myself. Which idk if i do/dont wanna do. But i dont see how things can get better at this point.

 

[izbiggs]

@Jessie Well, I personally love your presence on the forum. I would love for you to stay, but if it's becoming toxic for you, then don't force yourself to stay. I also have anxiety and depression, and I understand how awful a critical community, especially one centered around something you love, can worsen those things. Feel free to PM me or email me (I don't even know if my email's on my profile, hahah) anytime for any reason.  :balloon:

 

[KevinsWither]

@Jessie Well, I personally love your presence on the forum. I would love for you to stay, but if it's becoming toxic for you, then don't force yourself to stay. I also have anxiety and depression, and I understand how awful a critical community, especially one centered around something you love, can worsen those things. Feel free to PM me or email me (I don't even know if my email's on my profile, hahah) anytime for any reason.  :balloon:

This has not been fun. Juat stressful. I cant make my own choices without getting attacked. And instead of saying things to my face. They have to twlk behind my back like a high school kid.

I have anxiety and depression i dont need this. I wouldnt leave mantis. I just would do it all myself. Which idk if i do/dont wanna do. But i dont see how things can get better at this point.

Personally I can relate. Having Aspergers, being an awkward asian teen with a pretty difficult struggle (IB) and people being busy and stuff, I agree. (Heck, not even getting a girlfriend helps, im too wise for that drama). Most of the time, it's only my pets that are kind of preventing me from going crazy... more on that... high school can be quite the (excuse my language) a heck hole. At the end of the day Jessie, you are the viewer of your mantids. 

 

[Jessie]

@izbiggs I don't wanna leave, but had a good friend of mine kick me the curb cause i called a few people an ***hole. I get it it prob wasen't the best, but i am tired of everyone throwing i have more experince in my face.

@KevinsWither The sucky part is now some breeders don't want anything to do with me.

 

[Teamonger]

Unless there is some stream of forum PMs I don't know about I assume most of your issues are arising from the facebook groups? Perhaps a middle ground would be to stay on the forum but leave the facebook group(s). 

 

[Jessie]

Yeah i left all those groups.

 

[Serle]

@Jessie  I don't ''face book'' but seem that I hear more detriment than positive come from that medium. Sylvia my partner removed herself just for that reason.... possibly TMI is too much information....  S

 

[Rick]

@Jessie  I don't ''face book'' but seem that I hear more detriment than positive come from that medium. Sylvia my partner removed herself just for that reason.... possibly TMI is too much information....  S

Like anything else, it is what you  make of it. Sure, there are areas of Facebook that are full of rude, ignorant people but my experience has been mostly positive. I have joined and interacted with many groups that are full of good information and people. 

Sorry to see you leave Jessie. I hope you can find a way to stick around. Perhaps just take a break from the online side of things?

 

[proserpina]

I really enjoy seeing you on the forum, Jessie. I also have anxiety so I can understand, if this is what you need to do to keep your mental health sound then do what you need to do. Best of luck to you if you do end up leaving.

 

[Tehshlendo]

At this point I have, thankfully, overcome my anxiety and depression issues but with my history of that I can relate. It's be a shame for you to leave the mantis community entirely why not just stay on this forum?  Like anywhere there will be times where people disagree with your beliefs or ideas for any number of reason and a lot of people will be less than kind but try to not let those people in particular make the decisions in your life for you. Like Rick I've found a lot of different communities that are great but even in the best of places you'll always find someone who's a grump  .  I think a lot of times us folks who've dealt with bad anxiety or depression have to decompress a while and spend some time getting rid of ANTs (Automatic Negative Thoughts).  But like everyone here has said take care of yourself first, but keep in mind that there surely is a group of people here who would welcome you gladly.