I didn't read the whole thread, so sorry if it was said before:There aren't many records of dipteran parasitism in mantids, with the parasite often left undetermined. Three families are known today: Tachinidae, Sarcophagidae and Nemestrinidae. The mantids aren't infected by eating the fly; the fly lays eggs or maggots on the mantis which then borrow into the mantid. They can live for a long time with the parasite, but is seems to be always lethal. I once found a maggot attached to the thoracic musculature of a Sph. lineola I dissected in order to remove the guts. It lived in my hut for some weeks when I was in the Ivory Coast several years ago. I found it as a nymph and it molted to adulthood some weeks later. Before departure I killed it and found the fly larva inside.
Hymenopterans, if not egg parasites, act different: they grab the mantis, paralyze it, and bury it alive underground. The egg is laid to the side of the mantid(s).